Coffee Rhetoric: Domestic violence
Showing posts with label Domestic violence. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Domestic violence. Show all posts

November 04, 2012

These and Those: M.A.D.V.O.W. - Men Against Domestic Violence On Women


Last night, I had the opportunity to attend an event coordinated by an up-and-coming movement called M.A.D.V.OW. - Men Against Domestic Violence On Women - for its third annual social hosted in a lounge space donated by Barça restaurant and tapas bar in Hartford. There was spoken-word, music, food, and most compelling, stories of survival relayed by women and men- (including a personal testimonial by musical guest, Heshima Moja ) - who’ve been profoundly affected by domestic abuse.

One survivor relayed how she spent years shuttling back-and-forth between her relationship with a physically and emotionally abusive man and her family, who she stayed with whenever she’d leave him, before finally seeking refuge at a shelter for abused women. During her time there, she gleaned insight and encouragement from advocates and other survivors, who helped her feel empowered and strong enough to rebuild her life and move on and away from her abuser for good. Another survivor stressed the importance of patience from friends and family and pointed out how many survivors don’t willfully fall in love with men who’re abusive; but with men who’re initially charming and loving before setting out to isolate their victims and gradually subject them to abuse.


October 17, 2012

Waverly High School: Why White Students Parodying Domestic Violence in Blackface is Problematic



With the encouragement of faculty and the Waverly community, three students at the predominantly White Waverly High School in upstate New York, decided it’d be a great idea to don Blackface and parody Chris Brown’s infamous 2009 assault on then-girlfriend Rihanna as a homecoming pep rally skit. The re-enactment was apparently one of a series of pop-culture parodies performed at the high school as part of their annual “Mr. Waverly” competition, where male students jockey to get the loudest cheers from their peers. It doesn’t take a genius to realize that the mere idea of mocking domestic violence while wearing Blackface is unfathomable on many levels and so should have signaled red flags for pep rally coordinators and faculty advisors.

The school’s misstep, understandably, incited folks to chorus when a picture of the skit, which was originally posted as an unfiltered iReport on CNN’s website by Waverly High alumnus Matthew Dishler on Monday, went viral across various social media and blogging platforms and catapulted the school into the national spotlight for all the wrong reasons.